Exhibit A: Silky Johnson, one of the biggest player haters
A hater is someone who discredits, devalues or downplays your accomplishments.
Your failures make a hater happier than their own success. Haters need to see you go down to lift themselves up.
If you have haters, the solution is simple: ignore them and keep doing what you do. If a hater can directly influence your plans, then your plans aren’t ambitious enough.
You can usually dismiss a hater. If you’re bored, you can harass them. If you’ve got nothing better to do, they’re great fun to troll. But I don’t recommend wasting your time or energy on haters.
There is no magic wand to get rid of haters. There is no secret spell to win them over to your side. Some people won’t like you regardless of what you do. That’s alright. The world is a big place.
Many people wonder why haters exist. Why would anyone criticize the accomplishments of others? What motivates a hater to hate? And what motivates a hater to hate on you, specifically?
If you’re a genuinely mean person, success isn’t the reason why you have haters. You have haters because you’re an asshole. Your success exposes you to more people, and those people also discover that you’re an asshole. If so, the following does not apply to your haters.
For those of you who aren’t assholes, however, I present the top 5 reasons why you have haters.
Fair warning though: once you understand them, you will no longer feel confusion or even dislike. You’ll just feel sorry for them.
1. You have haters because you improved
This reason underpins all of the others. Everyone wants the good life. Few people are willing to do the work necessary to get a good life.
When you work hard and improve, you will get more of the good things in life. Rather than elevate themselves to your level, haters would rather drag you down. The quickest way to get haters is to succeed.
Since people aren’t willing to exert the effort required to get the best things in life, they have to believe that you were the recipient of a blessing. Average people will hate you because they think you are lucky. By definition, most people are average.
Self-improvement always makes someone jealous. Photo credit: Classic Film2. You have haters because you surpassed people
Your improvement may bother people who are used to you existing below their level. They may openly campaign for you to get your life together, but they secretly relish their superiority over you.
If you spend most of your time around people who care about you, you won’t have this issue. Close friends and family genuinely want you to succeed. Your casual peers will not because change disrupts the social order they rely on for their self-esteem.
When you move past them on the social ladder, they’ll feel a need to pull you down. Progress on the social ladder is almost always the result